I don’t know if you’re aware of it but I have an advice column called Go Ask Teresa. I encourage anyone with a question or problem about their fetish to ask me for help, advice and encouragement.
I recently got an email from a guy named Dave. He seems a bit upset, and this is his problem:
Dave: “Help me Teresa-I’m so torn about my fetish I don’t know what to do! All I think about is being dressed up as a girl and its just insane! I’m a big guy, I work out, have a job at a construction site, and women seem to be attracted to me. But the only things that turns me on are forced feminization fantasies. I know it crazy but I just can’t help it. And the more embarrassing and humiliating the more exciting it is. I’m starting to think I’m losing my mind. Is there a way to get rid of these fantasies or maybe change them somehow?”
Now does Dave really have a problem? He feels he does so maybe he does. I asked him a couple of questions to clarify the issue:
Me: “When you say an embarrassing fantasy, do you mean like getting caught in panties by a group of women you know? Or maybe being blackmailed and taken to the beauty salon for a complete makeover? Or dressed in panties, stockings, a babydoll nightie, and tied to a bed? Or dressed up in an adorable sissy dress and forced to be a sissy maid at a party?”
Dave: “Yes-yes and there are so many more! What do I do, please help me!”
Me: “OK, OK calm down. The first thing you have to do is shave your legs. You can wear a cute long sleeve blouse or maid uniform but eventually you’ll want to shave your arms too. You’ll have to buy your own clothes so they fit properly. Next, you need to set some limits, choose a safe word. You may think you want your eyebrows shaved off but they take a long time to actually grow back. Can you walk in high heels?”
Dave: “Yes but I’m not sure I really want it to happen. Sure I’ve been dreaming about it for about 25 years, but isn’t it just crazy for a man to want to be feminized and humiliated? I’ve gone through my whole life trying to avoid even the smallest embarrassing situation. Last week I hit my finger with a hammer, I mean bad, and the only thing I could think of was did anyone see me.”
Me: “Its roleplay Dave. Think of it like a play you’re going to put on. The audience can be as small as one understanding woman. The most important thing is to get comfortable with your fetish. Its not like you’re going to frame a house wearing a bright pink sissy dress, stockings, heels, a wig and full makeup.”
Dave: “OK let me ask you one more question. Are there pockets on that dress for nails and stuff?”
Well I guess he was kidding about the nails, because everyone knows that a pocket is not enough. You need a tool belt, preferably in pink with little bows and lace on it.