DEAR ABBY: My boyfriend has worn panties since he was 12. We are both 20 and have been together for a year. I know it’s odd, but I’ve always thought it was cute and, admittedly, sexy. We will graduate from college next year and are thinking about our futures.
I’ve been doing some reading and am concerned that he may have some repressed tendencies. He says he does not, and gets quiet and stubborn and won’t discuss it. He always dresses as a female character for Halloween, wearing my undies. This year he went as Lady Gaga.
Are these good-enough reasons to be worried? And if so, what should I do? – TESTED IN TAMPA
DEAR TESTED: Whether or not you should worry depends upon what you are worried about. I am more concerned that your boyfriend is unwilling to discuss this than what he’s wearing under his Levis.
If you’re afraid he may not be 100 percent heterosexual, you should know that some straight men wear ladies’ panties because they like the way they feel. Also, some men who enjoy cross-dressing have successful marriages to women who aren’t threatened by it and who help them do it.